
They intervene in other men’s misogynist behavior, even when women are not present, and they work hard to recognize and challenge their own.

They practice enduring uncertainty while waiting for a new way of being to reveal previously unconsidered alternatives to controlling and abusive behavior.

When they err-and they do err-they look to women for guidance, and receive criticism with gratitude. They avoid using women for vicarious emotional expression…. “For both men and women, Good Men can be somewhat disturbing to be around because they usually do not act in ways associated with typical men they listen more than they talk they self-reflect on their behavior and motives, they actively educate themselves about women’s reality by seeking out women’s culture and listening to women….
